— It’s a sin to complain about my son. And he studies well, and respects me. Even the bio-dad remembered about him, began to repost his photo to his page. Although I did not participate in his life at all. I didn’t get any help from him,” says 33—year-old Yulia.
Yulia has been raising her son alone since the age of three. Now the boy is 9 years old. He studies well and does gymnastics. After the 5th grade, his mother plans to transfer him to the physics and Mathematics Lyceum, because Artem is doing well with the exact sciences.
A young mother invests in the child to the maximum so that he gets everything he needs. She has to deny herself a lot, because even sports pulls a lot of money. Uniform, training camps, individual trainings. And so Yulia tries to please Artem with gifts, go to the sea with him and pay for various courses according to his interests. Of course, all this costs a pretty penny, and the biological father does not even pay alimony.
After his divorce from Yulia, he immediately married for the second time. Two children were born in a new marriage, and he left his wife. The woman understands that she will not get a lot of money from the bio-pencil, so she does not run around the courts to get meager payments.
He does not participate in education at all. Only occasionally calls her son. It happens on big holidays. At first, he told me that his son was still young to take him away for the weekend, and then he realized that Artem had forgotten him at all. But this is only to Julia’s advantage, because she has no desire to keep in touch with her ex.
— I just cut my ex out of my life. The son doesn’t even ask about him. And then recently I looked at his page and was stunned. Judging by the repost photos of his son, he is almost the perfect dad! — Yulia is indignant.
He puts pictures on the social network where his son is with medals or some diplomas. He has a lot of photos from competitions and some sports camps. All friends comment and praise the father.
And he only accepts congratulations. Nobody knows that Artyom doesn’t remember his father’s face. For all the years, the father did not give a penny to the child.
Julia is tearing up and rushing. She doesn’t understand how it is possible to be such a person. By the way, her son’s successes cost her dearly. Everything is on it — there is no one else to count on.
A certain part of friends says that the father has every right to publish a photo of his son. And Artyom should know that Dad is proud of him too. And who is invested in it, this is already a secondary question. In all the subtleties of their relationship, it is not worth dedicating the child.
Now Julia has no problems with money, so she has enough for everything. Not posh, but still fully provides for himself and his son. Should we then count how much she invested in the child and blame the father for not participating in it? Why would Artyom even know about this? Perhaps Yulia just wants to turn her son against her father with her phrases? As psychologists say, children should either say good things about their father, or not remember him at all.
Until recently, Yulia didn’t say anything to Artyom. But the entries on her ex-husband’s page made her mad. She immediately began to remember their divorce and all the bad things she had to go through alone. She wandered around in removable corners, could not eat for days, because she also had a loan hanging on her. She raised her son in difficult circumstances, but she still made her way into people.
Is it worth dedicating all this to the child? Is it necessary to mislead him or is it better to tell the truth? If Artyom doesn’t find out what happened and how it was, then his father will appear and put noodles on his ears. And who the son will believe, mother or father, no one knows.
What would you do in Julia’s place? Would they tell the truth about the father who didn’t give a penny to his son, or not?
